Sunday, February 18, 2007

Soccer - or the need to be aggressive

So, Hyperion's first game ended up being a forfeit - only 2 people from his team showed up. Sigh. But they went ahead and shared players from the other team and scrimmaged. Watching those kids was a lot of fun. Wherever that ball went, they went.

Oceanus' game had all the players there (one too sick to play, but still there). His team would not cross the half way point if the other team had the ball. They'd hold back by their goal and wait for the other team to bring it to them. No matter how many times we said "go get the ball" they'd hold back.

Consequently they lost. 7-2. Poor Oceanus played goalie and let in 3 goals (one was a penalty shot and his team totally didn't get what was happening to help him out).

I think I could learn a lot watching this. I've been complacent in my life. I've waited for the ball to come to me. My current job is somewhat an example of this. Yes, I did go after it - to the point where I went completely outside of my comfort zone and asked everyone I knew if they knew someone hiring parttime and carrying resumes with me everywhere. But now that I have it, I can't be aggressive. I find myself terrified to make the wrong choice, so I don't make a choice at all.

My job is safe. I don't have to do much - other than put up with a boss who can be an asshole and a coworker who is more than willing to stab everyone else in the back. I'm not doing what I want to do because it's too hard. It's too hard to fight the good ol' boys club. I'm not aggressive enough to take them all on. BUT!! There is a way around them. I can start my own business.

So, it's time to do that. To set some goals and set a timeline to achieve them.

Coming soon - goals and a timeline.

1 comment:

Tanya Brown said...

(Catching up on being nosy and commenting.)

Whoever said that money can't buy happiness was half right. Money can reduce certain types of stresses that lead to unhappiness, such as not having food on the table or a roof over your head. That's particularly the case when you have children to consider.

But beyond that, life is short. Too short to spend all of your days at a safe job with people who are unkind and don't appreciate your efforts.

Make your plans. Start your business. Then, when the time is right, quietly and politely move on.

Go for it. There's no time like the present!